Thursday, April 27, 2017

Share the Love: Learning how to Raise a Wild Child at the Chicago Botanic Garden {giveaway}

The irony of this post is that I'm going to talk about engaging beyond screens while I'm writing ... on a screen {because that's how you do this writing thing these days, and the world in which we live involves devices and screens}.

Before you think I'm anti-device and anti-screens, let me be real: we have more screens at this house than the one on which I'm writing!

My children use screen devices, and we are not screen-haters or complete screen-avoiders because in reality, you can't live in this day and age without having some access to devices. Screens and devices are embed in our culture. But like many parents who work in the world of technology, we limit screen and device time for ourselves and our kids because we've found that too much of a good thing isn't really a good thing.

I've found my teens are literally surrounded by screens all day long unless we consciously choose to leave devices behind, and my three younger kids vie for screen time often and loudly.

I'm the keeper of the screens/devices, and to be honest, it's a little draining to be in that role, so instead of trying to persuade my kids to give up their electronics or understand the dangers of device overuse, I've decided to try and facilitate a yearning for life beyond devices and screens.

There's an old saying by Antoine de Saint-Exupery that says,"If you want to build a ship, don't drum up people to collect wood and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea."

So that's exactly what we're trying to do because it's become clear to me that electronic overuse is stealing something from us -- something maybe we don't even realize!

Two years ago my friend Renee wrote quite eloquently about how our lives are a collection of moments and how as we live "we become moment collectors, memory creators and master storytellers of stories that are ours and ours alone." How we engage in our lives and spend our time directly affects how our stories play out in our one beautiful life.

Renee's post resonated with me, as I know it has resonated with many parents, and it came to me at a time in which I could see much of our attention being diverted toward electronics and away from connection with each other and the beautiful things of life, like nature, community and creating.

One of the ways our family has been trying to engage in life beyond screens is through connection time and outdoor time; when we can, we try to roll these two things into one adventure.

Two Mondays ago, on a beautiful sunny day when all of my children had the day off of school and homeschool, we left behind most of the screens (I took mine along to document our day for my quarterly #gardenambassador post, which you are reading right now; thank you!) and headed into the great outdoors at the Chicago Botanic Garden.

It was lovely.

That's an understatement.

Not just the vibrant colors, the rich sounds of spring and the brand new Regenstein Learning Campus but the joy of being together, outside, largely focused on enjoying each other and the blooming beauty of spring and creation was so very life-giving.

Visiting the garden, especially the brand new Learning Campus, was such a wonderful way of engaging in life beyond screens and participating in activities like rolling down grassy green hills, racing siblings obstacle-course style over log stumps and playing tag under the spring-time sun. The kids an I also spent some time sketching the blooming flowers, reading the signs lining the plant-lined paths and laughing with each other as we enjoyed the beauty of the outdoors.

It was just so good for my soul and for theirs that 4/5 of us didn't want to leave the garden; that's a pretty good ratio considering we are a pretty diverse group of individuals!

During our visit, one of the upcoming Garden Talks caught my attention. Scott D. Sampson, who you probably know as the paleontologist from PBS' Dinosaur Train, will be speaking about concepts from his book How to Raise a Wild Child: The Art and Science of Falling in Love with Nature. While I haven't read this particular book, my interest was definitely piqued by his premise of how a child's experiences in science and nature are critical to a child's development.

Sampson's talk is Saturday, May 6, 2017 at 3 p.m. at Alsdorf Auditorium, Chicago Botanic Garden. The cost is $25/nonmember and $20/member. You can buy tickets here!

Speaking of taking time to connect, Sampson's Garden Talk would make for a perfect friend date or date night! The Garden is giving away two tickets to this Garden Talk and a parking pass. You and a date or friend could enjoy the Garden Talk, stroll the grounds, enjoy the beauty of spring, have a picnic ... the options are endlessly lovely!

Simply enter with Rafflecopter and I'll choose a winner by Monday, May 1!

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Disclosure: I am grateful to be a Chicago Botanic Garden Ambassador! My family loves The CBG, and in exchange for sharing about happenings at the Garden, my family receives a yearly membership. All opinions are my own, of course! 

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Where Else Would I Turn?

Love and warm-fuzzy feelings are kinda one in the same in my daily vocabulary.

I love God. I love my family. I love my friends. I love tacos. I love sunshine, and I love wool socks, especially when there is a lack of sunshine.

All warm and fuzzy {feeling-induced} types of things {for me at least].

A few years ago God began showing me another side of love, and it didn't have a whole lot to do with warm or fuzzy.

It was the kind of love that is hard-fought for, the kind that says I'll persist in loving you despite your massive amounts of junk and baggage, the kind of love that means the laying down of one's life for another's benefit.

I started examining my beliefs about love and my understanding of love when I began studying 1 Corinthians 13; I didn't really feel tugged toward studying love. I thought the whole love thing was going pretty well for me, and I'm a little embarrassed to say that every time I'd read about the fruit of the Spirit in Galatians, I'd always determined love was the "easy" fruit. HA!

I actually began studying love because the woman who has mentored me during the past several years wrote a study about 1 Corinthians 13, and she was teaching a very conveniently timed class at our church that offered childcare at the same time.

I was sold on this study because who doesn't want to study warm and fuzzy love and have their littles be cared for while doing it?!

As I began reading about love in 1 Corinthians 13 and really thinking about what things like "love is patient; love is kind. It is not proud or rude" looks like in real life, in MY real life, I began to realize it had little to do with the warm-fuzzy love I like so much.

In fact, this was the kind of love that made me want to crawl beneath the covers in my bed and hide away because who can love like that ... especially when there are preschoolers and all of the 4,534 questions during the course of one day involved?

Especially when a child is spewing deep-rooted pain out of their mouths, like little daggers of fury flying in the direction of whoever's heart is in his or her warpath.

Especially when a neighbor or acquaintance accuses.

Or a loved one wounds us.

Or stranger curses us.

Especially then, when this real kind of unconditional, I-lay-down-my-will-for-the-good-of-another kind of love seems nearly impossible.

I soon learned why love is one of the Fruit of the Spirit  ... because I, on my own, had a real hard time mustering up true, lay-down-my-will-to-benefit-another kind of love on any given challenging day.

But that's the kind of love I've felt like my heart is increasingly being called to ... because that's the kind of love that my God shows me.

We can't do love well unless we know love well.

In one of the disciple John's letters to fellow followers of Jesus, John said, "We love because He first loved us."

We know love because God first modeled this love to us. God's love is thankfully a transforming kind of love that allows us to then be better love bearers.

The more we soak in His love, the more we purposefully get to know His love, the more we are transformed by His love, the more His love comes out in our lives.

This kind of love isn't warm and fuzzy; it's a way of life.

1 Corinthians 13 love is a love that we can't muster up on our own. We need a constant connection to the Divine to be able to be loved and also to love in that kind of selfless way.

This kind of love is a call to abide, to remain deeply connected to the One who gives life.

As I wrestled last week with understanding this depth of love and how it comes from abiding, I began reading in John 6 for something completely unrelated, so I thought, to my study of love.

In chapter 6, after the followers witness Jesus do miracle after miracle after miracle, one of Jesus's Twelve disciples John, tells us about a hard teaching Jesus shares with the people who had called themselves disciples.

After Jesus likens calls himself the bread of life, he says, "Truly I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you have no life in you. Whoever feeds on my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day. For my flesh is true food and my blood is true drink. Whoever feeds on my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me, and I in him." (6:53-56)

I don't know about you, but thinking of that literally kind of makes me feel queasy; I can totally see why many of the people following said,  "This is a hard saying; who can listen to it?" (6:60)

Many turned their backs and no longer walked with Jesus because of this teaching, because of this call for our souls to deeply abide in His love.

Like most good analogies, this one powerfully evokes the senses and gives us concrete pictures to explain a spiritual truth: just like our physical bodies crave bread and thirst for water, our souls longs for, crave, thirsts for the goodness and true unconditional love of Jesus. Unless we eat and drink of what our bodies crave and need, they will die, just like unless our souls eat and drink of what they crave, they, too, will wither.

Jesus says the only way to love this 1 Corinthians 13 type of love is to abide, to remain in Him, the way a branch remains in a vine (John 15). In the way a branch drinks from the veins of the vine, our souls drink from the love flowing from Jesus Himself.

Soon after the crowd of followers dwindles in John 6, Jesus says to the Twelve, "Do you want to go away as well?" (6:67)

And Simon Peter, bless him, bluntly says to Jesus, "Lord, to whom would we go? You have the words of eternal life, and we have believed and come to know that you are the Holy One of God." (68-69)

To whom would we go?

It's like Peter is saying -- yes, it's hard to understand, but where else would we turn? We've tasted; we've seen. We know you are good. This is hard, but this is it. There's no going back to just following the law ...

And for me, with this unconditional, God-breathed love of 1 Corinthians 13, it's the same. I've tasted and seen this sweet love. It's hard to understand; it's nearly impossible to muster even portions of it on my own ... but there's no going back to living off of the warm-fuzzies because this love is the bread of life.

This love is the love that lasts.

"Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away." 1 Corinthians 13:8