Monday, October 4, 2010

Thinking, that's all: The icing on the cake

Let me tell you, if you've never seen a solemn-faced three year old decked out in a tuxedo and shiny black shoes attempting to dance the Cha Cha Slide alongside a dance-floor full of people, well then, you really haven't lived.

I've never laughed so hard in my entire life while simultaneously trying to keep my bursting heart from spilling into tears.

Because he really put every.single.bit of his heart and soul and effort into doing those dance moves just like his daddy.

And is he really old enough already to be up at 9 p.m. grooving his little heart out on the dance floor at his daddy's best friend's wedding reception?

Earlier that day, I'd done a double take, too, while observing him.

You see, G. was the ring bearer at the wedding ceremony.

And I'd honestly wondered if he would be able to handle the pressure of people watching him as he walked down the aisle doing his "big-boy job."

That's a big thing for a little guy.

We talked about it quite a bit the entire week before he actually had to make the official trip down the aisle.

I explained what to expect at least a dozen times.

A few hours before the wedding I asked if he had any questions about being the ring bearer

He shook his head yes.

"Well," I'd asked, "what do you want to know

"When do I get to eat the wedding cake?" he'd inquired solemnly.

And he really didn't have any questions about his duty.

He knew just what to do when his grandma led him and the flower girl to the aisle. He carried his little white pillow all the way to John, who was standing as the best man.

My heart nearly thumped out of my chest at the sight of my oldest baby walking down the aisle.

How could he be old enough to do that? I'd mused to myself, fighting back the dampness in my eyes

And it occurred to me just how quickly little boys change and grow and become this bigger little person who has ideas and thoughts all his own.

And, I thought, sooner rather than later he's going to be a bigger big person who has ideas and thoughts all his own ... except then he won't be the one bearing the rings; he'll be the one exchanging them.

I realized there in those fleeting moments on the dance floor and in the church sanctuary, that we only have him while he's young for a short time. So our time needs to be spent not just trudging through the dailiness of life but really pouring into him, guiding him and preparing him for the awesome job he'll have one day as a husband and maybe even a father.

And if we do our parenting job well in preparing him for that day when he exchanges those sacred vows, if we prep him with enough of what his job as a man of God entails, perhaps the only question he'll have burning for us will be, "So when do I get to eat the cake?"


  1. So cute!! My 4yo already calls his favorite girl friend his "wife". Oy. If only life were that simple! LOL

  2. So good today! And so true! I have eight of them that are grown. Some with families of their own, and some without. Some have made amazing choices with their lives, and some have struggled a little bit more. I wish I could go back to those days when they were small and cherish each and every moment in my mind and in my heart. It is all so fleeting. It really does fly by. Each season is a time to be enjoyed and cherished!!

  3. Oh that is precious! Those moments are so fleeting.

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  5. How precious! My Joycie will be offically 7 months at 4:15 p.m. and I am already being to see the little girl emerge from my "baby". That's why I love blogging it allows me to capture those moments/milestones that I never want to forget.

  6. He might be he cutest thing ever :)

  7. There's nothing cuter than a too-serious-for-his/her-age kiddo. It's like they're play-acting at adulthood.

  8. You're so right! Lately we have been so wrapped up with this move that I feel like I'm wishing time away & constantly have to remind myself to just enjoy where we are now. Especially with Molly, because you're right, before we know it they will be where we are today!

  9. What a huge task he took on! I'm not sure I'd even be able to do it. ;-) He's a cutie!

  10. Holy cuteness, H! What a little man! You are so right about this parenting's a thought that has been on my heart very heavily these days. Thanks for sharing!

  11. Your sons are going to grow up to be men of integrity and character with their hearts on fire for Jesus. How could they not w/y'all as parents? You are a fabulous mom and I have zero doubts in you.

  12. another tearjerker, and so dead on for me as well. Everyday I wonder where my little baby went-- and I realize he's growing up. Enjoy every moment, knowing that he will always be your baby-- and you'll always be his mommy.

  13. I couldn't agree more. AND what a. cutie. pie!!!

  14. he is precious. i get emotionally overwhelmed watching my kids do big stuff for the first time. ring bearer? oh, i'd be a wreck. ;-)


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